Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Date: May 13 & 14, 2013
Time: 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
Location: Sala San Marco, 215 Preston, Ottawa, ON
Cost: $370 + HST
*Group rates available. Please see in the Event Registration Tab.
Mr. Eddy will be presenting an overview of the different types of personalities seen in high conflict divorce and family violence situations.
He will outline how people with personality disorders or traits often try to assert power and control over those around them, especially their partners and children. Family conflict dynamics will be addressed, including how to assess for the possibility of abuse, power and control dynamics and how these individuals involve their children in their high-conflict disputes.
Mr. Eddy will address the best interest of the children involved in these situations including the four key skills in managing the personality-disordered parent with empathy, attention and respect, while dealing with contradictory information, setting limits and educating them about consequences.
The second day of the workshop will focus on learning new ways to manage high-conflict personalities in divorce and family violence. By the end of the workshop, participants will be able to successfully manage high conflict clients in litigation, mediation and collaborative divorce through the following techniques:
Tools to better identify abuse
- Connecting with Empathy, Attention and Respect (EAR)
- Analyzing options, choices and proposals
- Responding to hostile communications (BIFF Responses)
- Setting Limits on high-conflict behavior
This program has been accredited by the Law Society for 5.75 Professionalism Hours.
This program is also eligible for up to 6.25 Substantive Hour.
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DAY ONE May 13, 2013
Morning: Understanding High-Conflict Personalities
8:15 – 9:00 – Registration
9:00 – 10:30:
An overview is provided of five personality patterns of high conflict behavior seen in
people with Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, Antisocial, and Paranoid personality
disorders. Their common conflict dynamics will be explained, along with recent related
brain research and treatment methods.
10:30 – 10:45: BREAK
People with personality disorders or traits often try to assert power and control over those around them, especially their intimate partners and their children. There will be a presentation of the 3 specific personality disorders of Borderline, Antisocial and Narcissistic, whose patterns of abuse most often drive high-conflict divorce disputes, specifically in family violence. Their common family conflict dynamics will be addressed, including how to assess the possibility of abuse, power and control dynamics, and how they involve their children in their high-conflict disputes. Common cognitive distortions of these personalities will be explained, as well as victim patterns and expectations.
12:00– 1:30: LUNCH
Afternoon: In the best interest of the children?
We will discuss parenting concerns associated with each of the three personality disorders presented, the various roles that children assume with a personality-disordered parent, patterns of child abuse with a high-conflict parent, why they seek and find Negative Advocates, and managing professional “splitting” in family violence cases.
2:45 – 3:00 BREAK
3:00 – 4:30
We will discuss various issues of boundaries and responsibility for behavior and decisions of a high-conflict person pertaining to family violence. An overview will be presented for managing personality-disordered parents with empathy, attention and respect, while dealing with contradictory information, setting limits and educating them about consequences.
DAY TWO – May 14, 2013
Morning: Providing Structure and Skills
9:00 – 10:30:
Methods will be expanded upon for managing high-conflict personalities in their disputes, which emphasize connecting with empathy, analyzing their choices, structuring their involvement, responding to misinformation and educating about consequences. Managing their frequent “negative advocates” (family, friends and professionals who reinforce their negative behavior) will also be addressed.
4 General principles (the “C.A.R.S. Method”):
Connecting with Empathy, Attention and Respect (EAR)
Analyzing options, choices and proposals
Responding to hostile communications (BIFF Responses)
Setting Limits on high-conflict behavior
This session will emphasize the importance of structure with personality-disordered parents. The benefits and implementation of requiring difficult parents to learn basic relationship conflict resolution skills.
Exercise: Assisting clients in setting realistic goals.
10:30 – 10:45 BREAK
We will address turning professional negative engagement into positive behavior with high-conflict clients, as well as Professional splitting, how to avoid it and how to deal with it.
Why flexible thinking is difficult and important for difficult parents. Why managed emotions and moderate behaviors take training.
Exercises: Teaching clients to write emails that are Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. Teaching clients how to Make Proposals and how to Respond reasonably. Addressing client resistance to practicing these skills will be addressed.
12:00 – 1:30: LUNCH – Panel Discussion
Afternoon: Reinforcing and Applying Client Skills
1:30 – 2:45:
Why clients must be the decision makers to their maximum capacity. Providing structure to assist the clients’ decision-making process. Quizzing clients on what skills they have learned and having them demonstrate skills while making decisions.
Exercises: Practice quizzing parents on what skills they have learned. Assisting clients in making and responding to proposals. Assessing potential for personality-disordered parents to change.
2:45 – 3:00: BREAK
3:00 – 4:30:
Tips for successfully managing them in litigation, mediation and collaborative divorce will be discussed, as well as common ethical issues that they present. There will be an emphasis on how legal and behavioral health professionals must work together to successfully manage these cases. A discussion of the New Ways for Families method of managing high-conflict families, including family violence, and presenting a Pattern Analysis of high-conflict behavior in and out of court.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, CFLS
William A. (“Bill”) Eddy, LCSW, JD, CFLS, is an attorney, therapist and mediator who provides training to professionals on the subject of high-conflict personalities, providing seminars to attorneys, mediators, judges, mental health professionals, hospital administrators, law enforcement and others.
Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California with over 15 years’ experience representing clients in family court. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he has served as a Special Master and as a Settlement Judge. Bill is currently the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, California and is on the part-time faculty at the Pepperdine University School of Law as well as the part-time faculty of the National Judicial College.
Bill has presented at judicial conferences in California, Alaska, Arizona, Florida, Kentucky, Virginia and a province-wide judicial conference in British Columbia, Canada. He has spoken at numerous state bar conferences and at state and international conferences for the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics.
Mr. Eddy, a prolific author, has written several books including:It’s All Your Fault!:12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything; High Conflict People in Legal Disputes; and Managing High Conflict People in Court. He is the developer of the New Ways for Families method for potentially high-conflict families, which is being implemented in several family court systems in the United States and Canada.
He is also the co-developer of the HCI Pattern Analysis computer method of presenting high conflict behavior and numerous documents in a simple visual format to professionals and the court. Mr. Eddy has presented to law and mental health professionals in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.
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